The Honor of Being Chosen👑

Njabuloyethu

Dear Ladies, I write this faced with the epiphany of how I lack a community of people surrounding me in my time of joy & need, and this is my own fault. Sometimes I think as humans, we find ourselves caught up in the fast pace of life⏳, and in the chaos of our own schedules, we lose sight of the value of the relationships around us💔. We get busy, overwhelmed, or tired😓, and we often don't have the emotional capacity to give as much to others as we'd like. There’s also this constant underlying fear that by reaching out, we might be burdening or bothering someone😟, and so we choose isolation. It’s a defense mechanism I have been trying to shake, but I am struggling💭. I want to protect myself from the potential disappointment of feeling unwanted, overlooked, or like an inconvenience to others. It’s easier to pull away than to risk vulnerability💔.

Friendships aren’t given to us by default; they aren’t automatic. We don’t just get handed relationships at birth, and they definitely don’t stay strong on their own. They require effort, time, and intention⏰. Nobody is obligated to like you, to spend time with you, or to invite you into their world🌍. People choose you. Every time someone makes the decision to reach out, to spend time, to show care, they are actively choosing to have you in their life, and hopefully you let them into yours, and that is a precious, beautiful thing🌸.

”And let us consider how we may spur one another on toward love❤️ and good deeds, not giving up meeting together, as some are in the habit of doing, but encouraging one another…”— Hebrews 10:24-25

I think the struggle becomes when we get stuck in the mindset of either taking people for granted, or neglecting the very people who intentionally want to be a part of us. Personally, I never want to ignore the fact that people have their own busy lives, their own challenges, and priorities. So the fact that people choose to include me in their lives is something scary for me😟.

I guess I have to remember to appreciate it, to acknowledge how much of a privilege it is to be chosen🙌, and to hold it close to my heart💖. Life is too short not to recognize the value in every small gesture—every text, every invitation, every call. So in those moments of isolation, I am forcing myself to pause and remind myself how truly special it is when someone chooses to engage with me.

At the end of the day, those choices are what build the foundation of lasting, meaningful relationships, and it is an honor. It’s something I never want to take lightly, because to be chosen—to be seen👀, heard🗣, and valued💎—is truly one of the most beautiful things we can experience.

~I am learning.